If I am made to sit and judge a beauty pageant, chances of me ruining it are sky high. Even though I am sure I’ll be great with the numbers but my biases will be so strong and untrained that I am bound to misjudge everything. But imagine; if I did take up the offer to be a judge because someone else feels that I am fit for the job, and if I let that someone’s feelings become my mantra, and sit on that chair, I, for sure, will be guided by my vanity and pride.
How many times does this really happen .. That you are commenting, judging and giving random opinions on things that you rarely know anything about?! A LOT. Just because we all, more or less, have an access to a space where we can project anything and everything, doesn’t necessarily mean that we must.
I do agree that all of us are stories and we have all the rights to live our stories and even to share them. But do we really have the rights and are trained enough to comment on every story?! Life, isn’t really a film. Films are etched out of life, for sure and thus everyone having an opinion on them (as in films) is justified. Whereas, on life, itself?! How just is that?!
Biases never leave us. We can never ever measure them either. We can simulate them. Which means we keep running through loads of possible permutations and combinations of the same model; we all do that inevitably. We run our mini life sustaining models day in and out with just few tweaks here and there .. As a result, what we stand for today, changes tomorrow and then what we believe in today, gets either strengthened in time or we move away.. However, at no given point, do we hold the key to the acute and precise understanding of life, itself. We live it, through it, and in it.
Given this, we do have cohorts. Cohorts that are knowledgeable, that are intellectual, that think and articulate thoughts well, that question to understand; not to judge. We all hold the rights to these cohorts. We belong to one of these many cohorts based on our experiences, education and exposure in life. Although, not every cohort experience is self enriching but then it’s best to have your knowledge and skills tested by the people who understand your work. The opinion of your cohort on you then becomes your lead into life. You rely on them for your growth, you rely on them for your understanding. And it’s they, whose opinions and judgements should matter.
These public votes on selecting singers, dancers, models and what not, is utterly ridiculous because half the population doesn’t even know what makes a singer singer. Just because I feel like staring at this beautiful face, I am going to keep voting for the face to stay .. reads ridiculous, I am sure and it’s perhaps what happens constantly. Just because that is a friend, I am going to do this as a favour .. Just because of this and that .. And with loads of just because’s .. We all end up in this space where scratching backs, licking asses .. feels alright.
I do know that money is important and mimicking set avenues for making money isn’t wrong. But then mimicking them shouldn’t take you away from the basic knowledge that you are mimicking it with probably a different model .. You haven’t created the model. If you did create the model, then you wouldn’t be judging or holding an opinion on it because it’s the use and abuse that generates opinions not the creation per se.
Oh well ❤️